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A lot of people have bad memories. Richard Bandler once said that the best thing about the past is that it's over. For some of us, though, it seems to be where we live. One technique developed for taking the sting out of bad memories is the V-K dissociation. A hypnotherapist named Dan Jones has a version for memories with any strong emotional component, which includes scrambling the memory. This technique works in a similar, but elegant and precise way. I learned it from The Coaching Masters, in... Read more

**Situation:** My brother was getting belligerent, so I used the anchor of a postcard to transition into a discussion about behavior, and then I future paced him to getting what he wanted after doing what he needed to do. **What happened:** He calmed down and complied with the house rules. **What I learned:** Anchoring is especially powerful with future pacing and values utilization.

**Situation:** someone was describing a sat story where they were the victim **What happened:** after pacing their reality they were much more receptive to the comments i lead with after **What I learned:** Pacing realities is more powerful than i thoguht and easily missed.